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5 Important Keys

As I was sitting and revising my Physics subject yesterday, suddenly a thought appear in my mind about
"critisicm". Then I was so curious about that and started asking myself " Apa Macam"? ... " Why must criticism happen ?" and "how to handle criticism" and "why must people get offended when it comes to criticism?" and blah...blah...blah...!

Then I asked my Mum for an answer but ended up a a wonderful "lecture about critism" And this is the result..!! She share about about "DEVELOPE A PLAN TO BETTER HANDLE YOUR NEXT CRITIQUE :)

1. Stay calm.

Criticism hurts. When someone verbally lashes out at you, it feels as if you are under
attack. Your breathing speed up, your heart beats faster, and your muscles begin
to tight as your body prepares to fight back. Rather than allow these emotions
to escalate, regain control. Do not respond immediately but rather take a 10 second
pause to take one deep breath to exhale all feeling of insult out. Staying calm puts
you in the best position for successfully maneuvering through criticism.

2. Accept that no one is perfect.

It would be great if we were always right and always had the best way of doing
everything. Even you and I sometimes miss the mark. It’s ok to not be right all
the time. Give yourself permission to have an off day. No one is perfect.
Sometimes criticism is justified. Listen to what the criticizing party has to say,
and then objectively evaluate its validity. You don’t have to agree with them,
just be open enough to accept that we are all perfectly imperfect.

3. Know your own self-worth.

Having someone voice that you did not do something right leaves a taste of failure
on all of our tongues. It’s very easy to move from criticism to self-doubt. Avoid
the desire to apply this criticism of your work to your personal worth. Know your
value as an individual. Do not allow criticism to define your self-worth, but rather
focus on your personal strengths and attributes. You are a unique individual and
sometimes uniqueness is criticized because it is uncharted territory. Your new and
creative way of accomplishing a task may have been met with criticism initially only
to become a future success as others grasp your vision.

4. Focus on what you can gain from the experience

Criticism can be beneficial. Whether or not you agree with their assessment, hearing
their opinion can give you insight on areas that may benefit from some tweaking.
Use the criticism as a way to evaluate the pros and cons of a situation. Focus on
what you can learn from the encounter and use it to your benefit.

5. Thank the person giving the criticism.

This is the most difficult part . Yes you heard me right, thank them. Occasionally
criticism will come from someone who is being malicious, but more often it’s from
those who actually see your potential and want to bring out the best you have to
offer. Thank them for taking an interest in your personal growth and development.
Despitetheir intentions, you will ultimately benefit from the experience by becoming
more secure in your ability to handle criticism with poise.